In our work, we hear one question again and again:
How do I talk to my child if they are affected themselves – and ask questions for which I have no answers?
Questions like:
- "What do I have?"
- "Why me?"
- "Will I get well again?"
These are moments that often leave parents speechless.
Breathe before you answer
If your child asks you such questions, it's no coincidence. Children sense very accurately when they can ask.
Before you answer:
Take a conscious breath.
Become calm inside.
And turn to your child.
You don't have to find the perfect words immediately. Your attitude is often more important than your answer.
Three phrases that often help
1. "That's an important question. I'm glad you're asking me."
You show your child: They can ask anything. Nothing is wrong or forbidden.
2. "You are sick, and the doctors are helping you to get well again. We will walk this path together."
You provide orientation without overwhelming. Children need simple, clear words.
3. "I am with you. Every day we will look together at what is important right now."
You take away your child's fear of the unknown – through closeness and security.
And a fourth phrase that often changes everything
"You can come to me anytime if you have questions – even if they are the same ones over and over again."
Children don't even think about it – they keep coming back. And that's exactly what they're allowed to do.
What you don't have to provide
You don't have to be able to explain everything. You don't have to have every answer. And you don't always have to be strong.
Your child doesn't need perfect words. They need you.
How our eBook supports you
In the eBook "When Your Child Gets Cancer," you'll find support for exactly this:
- age-appropriate explanations for children
- concrete example sentences for difficult questions
- guidance for everyday conversations
- impulses on how you can strengthen your child and yourself
It's not a textbook. But something that helps you not to be alone in these moments – and to face your child with more confidence.
